How Does Jesus Speak Your Love Language?

The Concept of Love Languages Has Taken Over Conversations Everywhere

While some people wear their love language like a badge, others still wonder,

“There are only 5 ways to express love? What about my sarcasm?”

And then there’s that friend—or sibling—who insists their love language is teasing or even bullying (because, of course, love lands a punch, right?).

Some argue there’s little scientific backing for the 5 love languages.

But for me, what’s more puzzling is this:

It feels like people are selfishly just on a mission to figure out their own so they could hand out detailed instruction manuals to their loved ones:

“Here’s exactly how you need to love me. Now, get to work.”

But true love, as John 3:16 defines it, is not about receiving on your terms; it’s anchored in selflessness and sacrifice, as proven on the cross.

Therefore, recognizing that the 5 love languages might have limitations, we must elevate this idea to a higher purpose.

And so, in this article, we’ll explore 2 key thoughts, with the last one sealing the deal:

The Missed Signals of Love

Have you experienced any of these?

Growing up, you may have felt like your relationship with your mom was tense.

Whenever she was around, it felt like she was breathing down your neck, scrutinizing your every move, and giving you unsolicited advice at every turn.

Maybe you soon realized that you thrive on Words of Affirmation, but your mom? Tough love and ‘constructive’ criticism.

Before questioning her affection for you, was it possible that she showed her love in ways you didn’t notice?

Like that time she cleaned the entire house after giving you an earful about how she carried you for 9 months, only to have a child who can’t even clean it properly?

Or how she quietly stitched up your torn sweater after a lecture on how to be more responsible?

Yep, that’s Acts of Service, my friend.

Possibly, during your childhood, everything was sailing smoothly until your mother decided to get a second child.

With all the Quality Time you used to get shifted to this ‘intruder,’ he quickly becomes your arch-nemesis.

Naturally, you took out your frustration on your brother, and that’s when your lifelong habit began—aggressively defending your precious attention. Now, whenever a close friend gets a new friend, you find yourself ready to reclaim your time, no matter the cost

Perhaps you may have quickly noticed that your father is never home, leaving early and returning late.

You can count the few times he hoisted you onto his shoulders or gave you a high 5 of admiration.

It’s like your Physical Touch love tank was running on empty, and you’ve grown to say your father has never loved you.

Or maybe your significant other isn’t the most romantic.

It’s like pulling teeth to get them toGive You A Gift, and even then, it’s usually something underwhelming.

You’ve probably dropped plenty of hints on why you need a new couch, but all you get is, “You’re beautiful.” ‘Yeah, but will that get us the couch?’

And when you decide to get him flowers as a gift, you can see it on his face, screaming, “This is a total waste of money. They’ll eventually perish and decompose!”

Everyone Has A Unique Love Tank

That needs to be filled in certain ways.

If your love language isn’t being spoken, it can feel like something’s missing, even if other forms of love are thrown your way.

This capacity to be unable to recognize love in every language could be the result of sin.

But Christ has demonstrated time and time again that He is always in a position to recognize love in all languages.

More importantly, He understands the need to intimately connect to our love tanks in every life season.

Even in our weaknesses of character, so that no man would be excused from the grace that He abounds.

Notice how:

Jeremiah 31:3 — Words of Affirmation

If you are experiencing a sense of separation from God, burdened by the guilt and shame of your secret sins, Christ understands where you are coming from.

It may feel like the thrill of walking on the path to righteousness will never be possible again. You might even conclude, “I might as well eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die.”

But The Voice of Truth, who intimately connects to your emotional love tank, knows that nothing is more powerful to encourage you than the soothing and uplifting Words of Affirmation from Heaven, which declare, “He will never leave you, nor forsake you.”

Even if you feel disqualified, He still regards you as His beloved child.

As your Father, He is willing to take hold of your hand, tainted as it may be, with “His righteous right hand.”

And just like the man after God’s heart, He knows that once you are ready to heed His call, you will affirm by saying, “I have put my hope in Your Word.”

Revelation 3:20 — Quality Time

Spending time with God in prayer has always been your greatest joy.

Always raising your voice above the din of the street like sweet incense to Heaven.

Yet, you feel it’s not enough to culminate your week.

He knew the need for Quality Time, so He set aside the 7th day, a sanctuary in time itself, for you to spend with The Faithful Companion, anywhere and in whatever situation.

Just like Adam and Eve in that blissful garden, He is always eager to spend time with you from sunsetto sunset.

James 1:17 — Gift Giving

He knows how much gifts mean to you.

The scriptures offer evidence of the gifts The Great Gift-Giver has always laid out for you to discover.

He unfolded creation with the gift of food, “…from every seed-bearing plant and every tree that has fruit in it on the face of this earth.”

He made sure to culminate the scriptures with an assurance to you of His triumphant return, promising again a reward, “…to give to every man according to his work shall be.”

To the overnight fugitive, He promised that He would “…increase his numbers,” and He did. To the father of faith, a son, and He did.

To the adulterer, the gift of repentance, and He did. To the rich prince, “…a wise and discerning heart like no other man,” and He did.

And to you, He has promised a hot Heavenly sandwich, not to spare the gift of knocking at His door and the crucible, that resilience will be your reward. Won’t He do it?

Since He knows that’s how you best express love, He awaits your declaration of obedience through the gift of sacrifice you are willing to make for His cause.

Matthew 20:28 — Acts of Service

Your Savior chose to make this world His dwelling place despite knowing He wouldn’t be recognized, pitching His tent outside our camps.

For you, He was willing to veil His blinding divinity with love by selecting our bodies of waste and corruption as His vessel.

He walked among us, lower than the swine, with nowhere to even lay His head—save the foxes.

To fill your unique love tank, The Ultimate Servant was willing to wash your feet, illustrating that stooping lower is the work you should do too.

Even on that cursed tree, He remained steadfast in His promise to bear all your burdens in this world of pain.

He is committed to being your guiding light, leading you toward a brighter tomorrow.

Matthew 8:3 — Physical Touch

Have you felt, before, as you privately engage in prayer, the divine proximity of His presence beside you?

Experiencing the refreshing sensation of a delicate touch that sends shivers down your spine?

Have you felt the uplifting feeling of a soothing breeze rushing through your soul as you sing praises?

He has lovingly demonstrated to shield and guard those who sought refuge in His Physical Embrace.

He has embraced children the disciples dismissed, and touched the eyes of the blind to sight.

He has brought back the infectious skin of a leper to healing, and restored the ability to listen to those whose ears had been cut off.

He touched the lips of the undeserving to speak the words of Heaven.

Why, then, should He withhold His Healing Hand love from you?

Here’s A Call For You Today

Have you taken the time to understand the love languages of those around you?

How do you plan to fill their love tanks to strengthen and deepen your relationships?

And if you’ve discovered your own love language, have you noticed how:

The Voice of Truth, The Faithful Companion, The Great Gift-Giver, The Ultimate Servant, The Healing Hand

Has been reaching out to you in the very way you feel most loved?

Are you ready to respond with the same depth of intimacy?